READ: Hebrews 12:5-15
If you reject discipline, you only harm yourself; but if you listen to correction, you grow in understanding.
Proverbs 15:32 (NLT)
Correction is against human nature. Because the nature of man is to proclaim his own goodness (Proverbs 20:6), there are many varying responses to rebukes from Christians. There are very good responses and indeed there are very bad responses. Good responses range from mature acceptance of correction to the other extreme of hatred and revenge on the one who corrected you. A good response to being rebuked comes from what you think about the person who is correcting you.
When thou with rebukes dost correct man for iniquity, thou makest his beauty to consume away like a moth: surely every man is vanity. Selah.
Psalm 39:11
People hate to be rebuked because rebukes make their beauty vanish. A person who is rebuked or corrected is lowered in the eyes of men and looks far less glamorous than he would like to be. Imagine a man standing to be corrected by the boss in front of everyone. This man may not take it lightly. He may begin to resent the correction that is being meted out. People hate rebuke and correction because rebukes shame and reduce them in the eyes of men. People only want to be praised so they naturally do not want to be rebuked.
People see themselves as good. Whenever a person narrates a story, you must be aware that he is going to say good things about himself. He will never really say the negative role he played in whatever happened. You can expect to hear the good aspects and have the evil, cruel, nasty and unpleasant parts nicely avoided in the narrative. At best, most people are silent on their sins and faults.
Notice the wisdom of Solomon:
Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Proverbs 20:6