March 25, 2017  

SOLVING PROBLEMS

Dag Heward-Mills

 

READ: 1 Samuel 25:18-35

Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness...

Isaiah 5:20

 

Abigail recognized and acknowledged truthfully that she was married to a churlish personality. Acknowledging that your husband has the character and the tendencies of Nabal is the first step in what I term the art of Abigailism.

The first step to solving many problems is diagnosis. Even in medical science, when you are able to make out the diagnosis of the disease, you are often far advanced in curing it.

The second step is to stop pretending that the problem is not there. They say that black is white and white is black. Many women hide their problems, as they feel that they would be disgracing their husbands. There is a difference between denigrating your marriage, humiliating your husband and talking frankly about a problem that exists. To denigrate your husband means to blacken his reputation. This is wrong; a woman with direction does not do that! Nevertheless, a daughter of destiny should not so secretive that no one can help her. A certain amount of openness allows you to be helped. Speaking about your problem is not wrong if it is done in the proper context and for the right reason.

The third step is to ask for help. Abigail asked David politely to listen to her and understand what she was going through.

Many people need help but not everybody wants it. My experience in the ministry has taught me to give help to those who ask for it and not just to those who need it.


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